The Funny Thing About Social Media

Jan 21st

The Funny Thing About Social Media

Last week I was having a conversation with a friend and we were talking about birthday parties for our kids. Sidenote, I am starting to think of ideas for Carter’s first…what!? Where has the time gone? At some point after bringing up different ideas she had seen on various other moms’ Pinterest and Instagram accounts she said, “I’m just a mom.” It elaborated into how these other moms with kids seem to have time to sell products, cook gourmet meals and have their shiz together, yet for my friend a celebrated day is one where both kids go to bed fed. Between dogs, running a household and two young kids she was struggling with the idea that she’s “just a mom.”

Here’s what is so funny about social media. People only post the good.

Do you know how easy it is to compare to others in the world of posting photos and quick second videos? To constantly see the perfect handbag you want, the obligatory feet in front of the crashing ocean waves, that delicious over-priced salad or trendy green smoothie, it’s as though we are all living in this “perfect” world. You sit there scrolling and double-tapping wishing for more, wanting to be like someone else and hoping for one second you can trade lives.

But is that really reality?

Of course not. People only show the good in the public snapshots of their lives. Yes, you will see this mom post about this homemade lasagna she made on a Wednesday night for her family, but what you won’t see is a photo of her crying or upset over something that happened. Sure your favorite blogger might have the chicest outfit and perfect hair but is their life filled with a loving marriage or are they lonely? What about that uber crafty person that posts all those DIY projects that make you feel as creative and handy as a mop? I bet you she’s not posting the full-time nanny she has to have time to do these things since she’s making money off her postings. And my favorite? The person always posting ridiculous motivational tips and sayings, yet behind closed doors is completely hypocritical to what they preach.

It’s really quite a funny world.

Using myself as an example, I love to post photos of my son smiling, laughing and giggling. I love to post photos of a trendy-looking cocktail or a leopard top I am coveting. Or maybe I’ll even post a photo of waves crashing on my feet in the middle of January. To those outside my circle my life would be seen as that “perfect” model. But what am I leaving out?

I’m not showing you the muffin top I still have now over a pair of jeans post pardum. I’m not showing you my child screaming and having a full breakdown over having their diaper changed. I’m not showing myself crying in the middle of the afternoon because I am home alone a lot now without my husband and I miss an adult to talk to. Sorry Tank and Tiny, you’re just not cutting it.

We don’t show these things and why would we? You’re never seeing the full story.

We’re all guilty of this, myself included. Stop comparing. Stop wishing for more. Stop putting yourself down. I told my friend some of these thoughts and pointed out she has two beautiful and happy children, a wonderful marriage, a supportive family and a husband who loves her to pieces. What more honestly could you ask for? So what if she’s “just a mom.”

In my books, that’s the hardest job that receives the least amount of credit.

I’ll go ahead and continue to post what makes me smile, but know at the end of the day I have struggles just like anyone else, however I don’t need all of social media knowing every little detail of my life.